“I just don’t feel like myself.”

“I love my baby but I am exhausted by the constant worry.”

“I think I’m going crazy.”

“If I say how bad I feel they’ll think I’m a bad mother.”

“This is supposed to be the happiest time in my life… why am I so miserable?”

These are things I regularly hear from my postpartum clients.  The average time a woman waits to get help for postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, or other postpartum mood disorder is eight months. That is eight months of distress, uncertainty, of not fully being in the moment with her child, of suffering, often in silence. It can take a year or two for postpartum mood disorders to resolve on their own without treatment.  So you may be wondering, what is the good news here?

You are not alone.

• One out of five mothers (20%) and one out of ten fathers (10%) will develop a mood disorder sometime during the first year after their baby is born.

This is not your fault.

• You did not ask for this.  Depression and anxiety are not evidence that you are a bad mother.  You did not cause this to happen.

With help you can be well.

• Treatment works. Treatment can include postpartum counseling, and sometimes medication. Postpartum therapy is tailored to you, your needs, your strengths, even your style of interacting. It is evidence based, supportive, specialized, and effective. It is a place to tell your story, to learn skills, and to have the hard work you are doing every day just to keep going seen and validated. 

What do I hear most often when women have healed? 

“This is what it is supposed to feel like to be a mother-finally.”  

“I wish someone would have told me this could happen.”  

"I know I can do this, and that our family is going to be OK. We are ok."

The more we talk about postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum adjustment, the less stigma, and the fewer women will be silently suffering. I am passionate about getting the word out, and hopeful that together we can create a community where it is ok to ask for help and where women can better support each other in the journey through motherhood.